I will not make a recommendation for these reasons

• There is no one person who fits (ticks) all (points in a checklist)
• This is a personal intimate type of shoot and the rapport/comfort/trust you find in a particular person cannot be judged by be (especially when I do not know you in person.
• and regarding me shooting, I currently shoot portraits of children (all ages) and since I cater to this segment would prefer to keep this genre out for obvious reasons

having said that, do keep the following points in mind

• Search on google and follow photographers you find (there have been some media mentions of photographers who do boudoir (some disclose their real identity and some go by a pseudonym)
• Check what the person does (for a living/profession) for example a professional may be less likely to do something to harm their reputation.
• Ask how they manage data (some might never connect their disks to a computer connected to the internet). This is an exhaustive list and so please pay attention.
• Stay away from those who are ok with favours to pass on a discount.
• do not ignore red-flags / instincts. it is better to be safe than sorry.
• people well versed in paperwork (nda, model release etc) are a plus (i.e. they understand what the intricacies are)
• Do remember to discuss the moodboard and limits well in advance and be ready to walk out if you find any deviation from it.
• stay away from ones who try to convince you , remember you eventually decide to not do it at the last moment (keep professionalism - be ready to pay and walk out for the photographer's time in case you want to back out. It is up to the photographer to accept/deny accepting/accept partial payment based on their ethics and how they value their time

for example I have had several "husbands" call on behalf of their wife. I put them off by making a high quote or bringing up legal documentation since I do not want to entertain something that is just one person's fantasy,.